Child custody in South Africa determines where a child lives, how parents share time with the child, and who makes important decisions affecting the child’s life. Although people commonly use the term “custody”, South African law focuses on care, contact, and guardianship, as set out in the Children’s Act 38 of 2005.
In this guide, “child custody” refers to care (primary residence), contact (time with the other parent), and guardianship (major decisions).
In summary
- Care = where the child lives most of the time
- Contact = the time schedule with the other parent
- Guardianship = major decisions (school/medical/travel)
- Disputes are decided using the best interests of the child principle
In practice, child custody arrangements usually answer three key questions:
- Who will provide the child’s primary residence and day-to-day care?
- How will the other parent maintain meaningful contact with the child?
- How will major decisions about the child’s upbringing be made?
If parents can agree, these arrangements are typically recorded in a parenting plan and incorporated into a divorce settlement or made an order of court. If parents cannot agree, the dispute may involve the Office of the Family Advocate (often with a social worker), and in some cases a court – always guided by the best interests of the child.
Child custody disputes are often the most emotive part of a divorce because they affect a child’s daily life, stability and relationship with each parent. A child is a developing human being whose best interests come first. We use the words “child custody” because it is a familiar term, but “care” is a more accurate description of a parent’s responsibility towards their child.
For related guidance, see our guide on child relocation after divorce.
What exactly is child custody?
The law makes a distinction between custody and guardianship, and between legal custody and physical custody. Let’s explain these terms:
Guardianship is an adult’s right and responsibility to:
- Manage a child’s interests
- Manage any assets or financial aspects of the child’s life
- Assist the child in legal or contractual situations
- Give consent to the child’s medical treatment, marriage or adoption
- Give consent for the child to travel out of South Africa
The High Court is the legal upper guardian of all children in South Africa. South African courts normally grant guardianship to both parents as part of the divorce settlement. In certain circumstances, the court may grant sole guardianship to one parent or someone who is not the biological parent. This generally only happens if one or both parents are unable or unfit to care for the child, for example if there is a history of violence or substance abuse. If a guardian fails to fulfil their duties the High Court can be approached to intervene and can terminate a guardianship and transfer care of the child to another person or parent.
Physical custody means physical control over the child and supervision of their daily life and living arrangements. The custodial parent provides the child with:
- Food and support
- Day-to-day needs
- Education
- A home
Married parents share custody. On divorce, they must make a decision about who will provide the primary residence for the child, i.e. have custody. If the child lives with one parent most of the time, that parent has sole custody. The other parent has contact rights (otherwise known as access or visitation rights).
Joint custody means the child’s residential time is divided equally between both parents. This can work if the parents live close to each other and the child’s school. It also tends to be more suitable for older children who understand what’s going on and are able to be part of the decision-making process. It may be too disruptive for a baby or toddler. In practice it is usually more manageable to have a primary residence and regular contact with the non-custodial parent.
Legal custody is the right to make decisions about the child’s upbringing. Normally both parents have legal custody, unless there is a reason not to grant this.
Care vs contact vs guardianship (quick summary)
In practical terms, most “child custody” disputes involve a combination of:
- Care (primary residence): where the child lives most of the time and who manages the day-to-day routing
- Contact: the time schedule and communication arrangements for the other parent.
- Guardianship: major decisions such as schooling, certain medical decisions, and consent for travel.
Courts generally prefer arrangements that promote stability and meaningful relationships, unless there are safety concerns.
Contact
Contact with a child refers to the non-custodial parent’s right and privilege to see and spend time with their child. Divorce agreements usually grant the non-custodial parent reasonable contact time, but it is a good idea to define what is regarded as reasonable in the specific circumstances. The parent who has custody may not impose unreasonable conditions or restrictions on contact. The details may be specified in a parenting plan.
What if contact is being unreasonably withheld?
A parent may not use contact as a bargaining tool in a custody dispute. If contact is being frustrated, practical next steps often include:
- recording missed contact dates and communication attempts (factually, without escalation),
- proposing a clear written schedule (to reduce ambiguity),
- using mediation or the Family Advocate process where appropriate, and
- approaching court for enforcement or variation where necessary.
Where there are genuine safety concerns (for example violence or substance abuse), the focus may shift to structured or supervised contact in the child’s best interests.
Parenting plan
When parents can’t agree on the care arrangements for children, the court may require a parenting plan to be drawn up, but this is a good idea even if the divorce is not acrimonious. The parenting plan describes the roles and powers of each parent, and includes a time schedule, which dictates when the child will be with each parent. It may also include details of school and religious holiday arrangements. Parenting plans should be reviewed from time to time, as the child grows and circumstances change. The review date should be specified in the parenting plan. All arrangements are premised on the best interests of the child. The convenience of the parent may be considered but is not the priority. The opinion of the child is taken into account if they have the emotional and intellectual maturity to have a well-informed view.
What if parents were never married?
Care and contact arrangements can be agreed and recorded in a parenting plan whether parents were married or not. The focus remains the same: practical arrangements that promote the child’s stability and well-being, guided by the best interests of the child.
Best interests of the child in child custody cases
The primary concern of the court is the best interests of the child. As upper guardian of children in South Africa, the High Court will prioritise the situation that will best provide for the comfort and well-being of the child, with the least upheaval to their life. The court does not automatically grant custody to the mother, although historically that was more common and is still the norm in South Africa. But fathers can and do apply for sole custody successfully.
The court has a duty to assess every child custody case on the facts. Child care and contact is dealt with on a case-by-case basis and the facts are examined in their entirety, to ensure the final outcome represents the best interests of the child. These interests are not always obvious to the outsider, and the court’s decision may seem illogical to someone not in full possession of the facts. For example, international relocation may appear to be disruptive. But if that relocation leads to a more settled, prosperous household for the child’s upbringing, with a supportive extended family nearby, the court might rule that it is in the child’s best interests.
What factors do courts consider in child custody cases?
Courts decide care and contact on a case-by-case basis. Common factors that may be considered include:
- the child’s age, routine and need for stability
- the existing caregiving arrangements (who has been doing day-to-day care)
- the child’s relationship with each parent
- each parent’s ability to meet the child’s emotional, educational and practical needs
- the parents’ ability to cooperate and reduce conflict exposure
- any history of domestic violence, abuse, neglect or substance abuse
- practical logistics (distance between homes, school transport, work schedules)
- where appropriate, the child’s views (depending on maturity)
Office of the Family Advocate
The Family Advocate is a state official who helps divorcing couples reach agreement on disputed issues, namely child custody, contact, and guardianship. When divorcing parents can’t agree, the Family Advocate, often in conjunction with a social worker, reviews the circumstances in terms of the best interests of the child. The Family Advocate makes a recommendation to the court with regard to full custody of the child, joint custody, contact or guardianship. They will often approve the parenting plan.
How long do child custody disputes take (and what does it cost)?
Timeframes vary widely. If parents reach agreement and record it in a parenting plan, the process can be relatively quick. If there is serious conflict, allegations of harm, or extensive investigation is required, the process can take longer and involve additional professional input (for example the Family Advocate and/or social workers). Legal costs usually depend on whether the matter settles early, whether urgent applications are required, and how much evidence and court time is involved.
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Maintenance and child custody
Child maintenance is not linked to custody or contact. All children have the right to receive financial maintenance and both parents have a duty to contribute to the child’s upbringing. Maintenance is not linked to the amount of time a parent spends with their child and no one can refuse to pay maintenance as a means of bargaining for contact time. Maintenance amounts are calculated according to the Maintenance Act 99 of 1998 and the Children’s Act 38 of 2005. How much each parent will pay will depend on how much they earn. It is also based on the cost of the child’s education, care and upbringing. Maintenance orders are orders of the court and failure to pay court-approved maintenance is a criminal offence.
Frequently asked questions
People commonly say “custody”, but the Children’s Act generally speaks in terms of care and contact, with guardianship dealing with major decisions.
No. Courts decide based on the best interests of the child and the facts of each case.
There is no fixed age at which a child “chooses”. A child’s views may be considered if the child has sufficient maturity, but the court must still decide what is in the child’s best interests.
Yes. Fathers can and do obtain primary residence or shared care where it is supported by the evidence and serves the child’s best interests.
Care and contact disputes can arise regardless of marital status. The same child-centred principles apply, and arrangements can be recorded in a parenting plan and, where necessary, made an order of court.
Yes. Parenting plans and care/contact arrangements can be varied by agreement or through court processes if circumstances change and variation is in the child’s best interests.
Divorce attorneys who care
SD Law and Associates are experts in family law in Cape Town and Johannesburg. We have extensive experience of helping couples divorce in a respectful, dignified manner. We act in the best interests of the child in all cases but always strive to reach an agreement that all parties are comfortable with. Contact family lawyer Simon Dippenaar on 086 099 5146 or email sdippenaar@sdlaw.co.za. For more information on child custody in South Africa, see Who will care for your child after divorce? and International child custody.
Related reading:
- Moving with children post-divorce? What you need to know.
- Relocating with children after divorce
- Children and divorce – 5 ways to reduce the emotional harm of divorce
- Contested international child relocation
- International child custody
- Children’s Court in South Africa: custody, care and protection
- Guardianship in South African family law
- Parenting plans and parenting coordination in South Africa