Narcissists like to win – be aware of these behaviours during divorce If you’re married to a narcissist, you are already aware of the classic narcissistic behaviour traits. If you’re considering divorce from a narcissist, you’ve probably reached the end of your tether. But be aware that filing for divorce from a narcissist is not […]
Dark empath vs. narcissist We’ve written a lot about narcissism on this blog, because as family lawyers we see a lot of survivors of narcissistic relationships. Narcissism as a trait is unfortunately not uncommon, and can cause a lot of damage to the individual in a relationship with a narcissist. There’s another type of person […]
Recognising and coping with a narcissistic partner As we embark on 16 Days of Activism for No Violence Against Women and Children, I want to reflect on a type of abuse that is often hidden or not recognised as abuse: narcissistic abuse. Narcissistic abuse may involve physical violence but is predominantly a form of emotional […]
Spotting the next Tinder Swindler – why we are often attracted to people who will hurt us The women interviewed on The Tinder Swindler seem perfectly normal. They are attractive, intelligent, capable young women. How did they become embroiled in such an unfortunate sequence of events? Where was their dating radar? Two Americans – Bill […]
If you haven’t watched The Tinder Swindler on Netflix yet, you are in the minority. It is the runaway streaming sensation of the year so far, reaching no. 1 in 92 countries, including South Africa. While it’s easy to say, “how could those women be so stupid?”, the reality is that women…and men…are defrauded emotionally […]
We’ve written about divorcing with dignity in the past, something we think is important for everyone involved, not least the children of the union. Sadly, dignity often goes out the window when a marriage ends painfully. In this case that came before the Gauteng High Court last month, it appears that dignity disappeared before the […]
However much you are hurting, you must take some practical steps in the first 72 hours when your marriage is over We’ve written a lot about divorce with dignity, staying friends with your ex, co-parenting, etc. We are the first to advocate an amicable divorce. It saves everyone – especially children – a lot of […]
Most victims of sexual assault know their attackers…and it often starts insidiously Along with the rest of the country, we at SD Law were outraged and heartbroken by the spate of violent attacks on women that marked this past winter. Although assaults by strangers do happen, in the vast majority of cases, the victim knows […]
